The Relationship Breakup
Sure, ending a relationship is almost not at the peak of anybody's calendar, but actuality, when a relationship has gone rather sour, someone really has to make an attempt to end it. There's a certainty that numerous relationships last long after the expiration date simply because breaking up is hard to do.
There are times when a breakup happens in a somewhat dramatic fashion, like having your clothes being thrown out of a second story window?
Other times, the relationship just peters out until someone speaks up.
How do you go about ending a relationship so that neither party gets hurt?
You must be clear on why you want to end the romance. The direct reason that jumps into your mind may not be the real reason. Once being clear is done, the following step is ending the relationship is to be honest. Which means, that in a conversation you're having with your other half you are being truthful to yourself and to them.
Schedule a mutually convenient time for the breakup. In general, it is better to do it in person rather than over the phone, but if distance is an issue in the relationship, you should do it sooner than wait for a time you can get together.
When ending the relationship, get into a state of compassion. If you still want to be friends after the breakup, you must end the romantic ties with love and sympathy.
Don't put your partner on the defencive. Talk about the things you've learned and the memories you will cherish that have come from your love. Be present during the breakup. Your partner may become very emotional during this time. You need to respond to their needs.
Don't take anything personally when ending a relationship. Your partner may say things they don't really mean. Let these words roll off of your back.
Your partner may feel the need to see more than once to finish the relationship. Or, they may wish to have some space. Give your ex whatever they need to do to get through the alteration time.
But don't let them make you feel guilty. You're ready to begin a new phase in your life and it will not include a romantic relationship with your ex. It is best if you retain a positive relationship of some sort with them, but if you are ending the relationship for the right reasons, it is best for both of you.
Should you ever consider reconnecting? Does ending a relationship always mean "the end, close the book"?
That is something you have to decide. Virtually all relationships can be saved if certain conditions are met. If you have the time and are willing to make the effort, you can get through this period as an even stronger couple.
However, if you are determined to walk away, it'll best to end a relationship with a clean break and move on.
