We Need To Talk... I've Met Someone Else
Okay, we all know of this one even if we've not experienced it ourselves. The met someone else way to breakup the relationship is a particularly bad one. It's bad because it usually takes you completely by surprise, and because it's so final. It's a common relationship breakup method for a reason.
But, is it so final after all? Some people use the 'met someone else relationship breakup' method just as a quick way of getting out of a relationship, they don't know any other way to breakup. Others use it because they expect some confrontation or argument, especially if they think there will be a lengthy period of trying to convince them the breakup shouldn't happen. They use this excuse precisely because it is more final.
It doesn't mean they are telling the truth though.
Of course, it just might be true, it may be the real reason for the breakup after all. If it is the real reason then it's a real bummer. It means they've found someone who they prefer over you, a real confidence basher. Does that mean the relationship is finally over?
Maybe..., but maybe not.
When a relationship is in it's infancy, there is an excitement, those feelings in the pit of your stomach, the heart fluttering, there is an expectation and desire that is almost irresistible. But this intensity of feeling doesn't last. It dwindles over time to be replaced with other, deeper, levels of affection, after all, it's just hormones.
When your relationship with your ex first started, it was probably the intense version. Neither of you could do any wrong in the others eyes. You couldn't wait for the next date. Remember how it was then?
Well that's how it is for your ex at the moment, only it's not with you, it's with someone else. However, that intensity is going to fade here as well. Maybe sooner than you think.
You see, the longer you try and hold onto your ex, the further away you are going to push them. The harder you try and make it difficult for your ex to be with their new love, the more you will make them determined that their new love is for real and the more desperate and needy you will look to your ex. If this happens, they will never want you back because they will see you as weak.
Your best tactic, regardless of which of the above categories you fit into, is to try your best to be yourself, the one your ex fell in love with initially. To do this you will have to let go of your ex and realise that the relationship breakup is real, it has happened.
The rest will be up to fate, as long as you can get on with life and be as you were before your relationship started then there is always the chance your ex will get fed up with the new love and you'll be well placed to pick up the pieces. If this doesn't happen, then you'll be well placed to find a new love of your own, you never know, you just might find one that's not quite as fickle as your ex. You see, the met someone else relationship breakup needn't be the end.
