The Breakup
The pain of a breakup coupled with all the confused feelings have a significant effect on both parties, it would be rare indeed for anyone to escape unscathed. The intensity may be different for the one who wanted the breakup than for the one who was dumped, but both people will go through vitually the same emotional stages of the relationship breakup.
Understanding and being able to recognise the different stages of the breakup as they occur can help you move through the process a little faster and somewhat easier. Each step is necessary in order for you to heal properly and be able to find and accept love again without any hangups lingering from your breakup. Don't try to shrotcut the stages, it is best if you let them happen naturally, just remember, and try your best to notice, that after you've gone through each stage you should be feeling stronger and more confident, this will help your recovery process as well.
There is no time limit for how long each step should take to get through. How long it takes will depend on a lot of things such as how secure you are in yourself and what type of a support system you have.
Here are the 6 vital stages in the relationship breakup:
1) The Heartache of a Breakup
The pain will often hit hard and fast. At first the pain can be diminished somewhat by a feeling of disbelief but once that passes the pain can seem unbearable. This is a physical pain. You might not be able to eat or sleep. Everything seems like too much effort. You just want to crawl into a corner and be left alone.2) Don't Hide from the Breakup
This is the denial step when you start thinking that it is all a big mistake and surely your ex will realize it very soon and the two of you will be back together. That can be a dangerous way to think. It is important that you try to move through this stage as quickly as possible. Lingering too long in this stage can really make it harder to heal and move on.3) Outrage at the Breakup
This is when all your fear and hurt turns to anger. You are outraged that someone who claimed to love you could hurt you so deeply. This stage is very destructive and hurtful to both parties and if you're not careful how you handle this stage you might sabotage any chances you have of getting back together.4) Resenting the Breakup
Resentment will only harm you, so it's also important to make sure you don't become overly bitter. If you let that bitterness grow too strong it could follow you into other relationships making it harder to ever having a fulfilling relationship again. Resentment can also spill over into your other relationships with friends and family and has the danger of becoming a habit, and one that is hard to break.5) Grieving the Loss After the Breakup
At this stage you will mourn your lost relationship. You will often spend a lot of time reminiscing about all the good times the two of you had shared. It is very important to keep a close watch on your mental health during this stage. If you ever feel like 'ending it all' make sure you seek help immediately. It is impossible to believe while going through this, but you really will love again, if you allow yourself to.6) Accepting the Breakup
You will finally reach a point where you realize it's over. You are stronger and better able to start thinking more about your future and less about your past. This time can be bittersweet: you've realized and dealt with the fact that your relationship is over which is sad, but you're also excited about new opportunities and you're convinced you will find love again.The more you know about the emotional stages of the relationship breakup and how to deal with them the easier and quicker you can move on from living in the past to a bright new future. Just make sure you understand that this is all normal and it will get better, just hang in there.
